Living with herpes- as told by the goddess herself

Questions...

Sun, 04 Nov 2012 22:33:06 -0500

By the way, I’m really crap about answering questions. It’s not because I don’t love everyone who asks (because I do), it’s just because I get distracted by shiny things. Or corgi videos.

Hail her majesty. I think u are so amazing I have genital herpes as well it has been a year since I've had it. As I'm reading your blog I realize that we go through the similar mood swings I'm greatful to know that there is someone out there to relate to. I pray you find your prince charming. Oh by the way how do I subscribe to your blog? I'm glad you made it, I was going through a depression and your blog changed my mood thanx xoxoxoxoxoxo

Sun, 04 Nov 2012 22:27:59 -0500

I think you heart my blog to subscribe? I’m glad you found it- we ALL go through those damn mood swings.

XOXOXOXO

I am a 19 year old girl and have just gotten the diagnosis after sleeping with somebody who had recently been tested and told he was clean (of course, the traditional tests don't test for it.) Can you give me some advice on what to expect? I feel crushed and dirty and like nobody will ever find me attractive again. I really need some advice right now.

Sun, 04 Nov 2012 22:27:21 -0500

Ugh. Boys are crap.

Expect a crappy first year and then it gets better. You’ll meet idiots with and without it, but you’ll realize that you’re much better than it. I’m having an OB right now and it was painful the first day, but now it’s gone.

Keep your chin up!

If you need something to take your mind off things...

Thu, 01 Nov 2012 07:18:27 -0400

If you need something to take your mind off things...

4 years later...

Thu, 01 Nov 2012 07:18:02 -0400

So it’s right around this time 4 years ago that I first received the wonderful gift from a not-so-wonderful person. There are some things that could be better, but…

It’s less like this:

Because you’re not thinking about it all day, every day

You start to worry less that people are going to act like this when you tell them

And if they do have a problem, you can tell them this

So to all my friends, we are awesome. Give me some of this:

Stress/herp correlation

Sun, 05 Aug 2012 07:26:00 -0400

I never put much thought into the “stress leads to an outbreak” thing, because some of my most tired/stressful times (when I’m working extremely long days in a row and am very tired) have not prompted anything.

Last week, however, I was shaking due to stress I thought I was going to have to be committed. Long story short, my boss is crazy and is hell-bent on demoralizing me. I wasn’t perfect, but I also wasn’t as screwed up as she thought.

Then BAM! painful outbreak, right near where I got my first outbreak. I’ve had HSV-2 for about 4 years now, so outbreaks are rare and not often painful. Usually just something I notice that goes away after two days.

So basically- stress is not my friend.

Also, dating still sucks.

Still not dead....

Sat, 14 Jul 2012 12:41:19 -0400

Just didn’t have my computer for awhile. Still dating. Still getting my heart broken. On the flip side, my job sucks so bad that that takes up most of my time in life.

Good god omg (I cannot stop laughing what is wrong...

Sat, 14 Jul 2012 12:40:07 -0400

Good god

omg

(I cannot stop laughing what is wrong with me)

Gangsta pineapple

Wed, 16 May 2012 21:08:34 -0400

earthwindandherpes:

I need this in my life forever.

I fail at first dates

Wed, 16 May 2012 21:06:15 -0400

So apparently I’m super funny online. I’m pretty, witty, charming. And then I meet a guy in person (recently they’ve all known about the herp, so that isn’t the issue).

They say they want to see me again…and then they disappear.

One told me he was moving away, but then just emailed my herp account (I met him through my non-herp OK Stupid profile).

One just was too weird for words. I’m not really mourning that at all.

One gave me a hug, a kiss on the cheek, and told me he wanted to see me again. Sent him a thanks text, he sent one back, haven’t heard from him since.

I’m curious what exactly is wrong with me.

I've been rejected few cause I told my dates I have herpes simply because I don't want to spread them and whoever I am dating with has the right to know what condition I have.. tell me how can i deal with this.. its already painful enough getting rejected multiple times...

Sun, 13 May 2012 09:35:54 -0400

I know- it’s hard. I have gotten to the point where I disclose on the first date (second at most) that way I’m not emotionally involved with them too much.

You could try the dating websites for people with the condition, but it’s not always that easy.

Disclosing gets easier. There are a number of ways to weird out the people that can’t hack it, but sadly it’s not perfect. Know that you’re doing the right thing.

If you're having a bad day, watch this

Sat, 12 May 2012 18:01:54 -0400

If you're having a bad day, watch this

Guys you meet with herpes (or the ones who make you feel like they're doing you a favor by going out with you)

Sat, 12 May 2012 09:44:00 -0400

Occasionally this guy

Possibly this guy

Or a guy who makes you want to do this:

Don't settle

Thu, 10 May 2012 22:24:12 -0400

As much as I want the marriage and baby thing, I don’t want to be with someone who isn’t right for me.

And so I must keep looking.

Telling your friends you have herpes..

Thu, 10 May 2012 22:22:27 -0400

Your non-friends will act like this:

To which you’ll respond:

They might be more subtle like this:

So you just move on and hang out with your real friends who love you no matter what

i've missed you <333

Thu, 03 May 2012 07:41:23 -0400

Aw, that’s sweet! I’ve missed you too!

New blog posts

Wed, 02 May 2012 21:05:38 -0400

I’ve come to realize that laughter truly is the best medicine. Yes, some of the .gifs are stupid, but I figured I might as well express myself another way.

Telling your date you have herpes

Wed, 02 May 2012 20:35:00 -0400

You prepare like this:

You worry he’s going to react like this

or this

But maybe you’ll get this

Jorden Tayler Salas: I love you, Herpes Simplex Virus type 2.

Tue, 01 May 2012 22:06:52 -0400

Jorden Tayler Salas: I love you, Herpes Simplex Virus type 2.:

jordentaylersalas:

I have it.

Have had it for 2 years.

What now ? Bitch.

Don’t hate, because I didn’t want this. No one ever does. I was lied to, and it hurt a lot.

But, I don’t let it control my life. I don’t let it bring me down.

Sure, relationships are hard sometimes, but honestly, no one can make you…

Getting the diagnosis...

Tue, 01 May 2012 21:04:00 -0400

You might feel like this

or this

but probably this